We are officially halfway through the year. How are those New Year’s Resolutions working out? According to the University of Scranton and Journal of Clinical Psychology, 46% of you are still going strong with those resolutions. Are you in the 46%? Or do you need a hand to climb back up onto the wagon? Or maybe we need to flip this resolution thing on its head and start over.
I am a big believer in using your strengths to propel you forward and ask for assistance in the other areas. In reality the whole idea of “fixing” the areas that I am weak in or forcing someone else to focus on their “weak” areas is like finger nails on a chalk board to me. We can accomplish so much more by knowing what we do well and what we do not and having someone else focus on the items we are not great at, preferably someone who is great at them.
This is where those pesky resolutions falling off our radar come in. Is there a resolution that keeps coming up and keeps falling by the wayside year after year? If so take it out dust it off and answer these three questions:
1. Did this resolution come from a desire within me or did someone tell me I need to do it?
For instance did you decide you need to “exercise” 3 times per week because the doctor gave you an ultimatum about that cholesterol medication? Or maybe the doctor indicated an amount of weight they would like you to lose? Unless you are soooo motivated to avoid medication or make the change to improve your health that your hair is on fire, these are other peoples suggestions for you and just not that compelling. We achieve what lights us up and when that is the case we chase the goal like our hair is on fire. Otherwise more of the same is just easier than what it takes to make the change.
2. How do I feel about this resolution? When I think about achieving the ultimate goal of the resolution does it make me happy?
When we are excited or inspired to reach for a goal we are more inclined to make the time. If you look at your resolution and it came from someone else and it seems like work… yuck, I mean really who wants to embark on that. But there is hope. If you really think about how you would feel physically if you lost 10, 50 or 100 pounds. How you would feel mentally when you reach the goal. What it would feel like to be more active. Perhaps you can see yourself buying whatever bathing suit you want and being excited about going to the beach because you are able to navigate walking on a beach without pain, fear of falling, or lots of effort. When pursued from this place, this may make your goal move from yuck… to well worth your effort.
3. Should I throw this resolution out and create a new one?
If you determined the source of your goal and it was not from deep within yourself and you thought about the end result of the goal and it did not really excite you to want to take action… Throw it out! It becomes a bit like that outfit you bought that you thought you liked in the store, but every time you wear it you don’t feel your best. Then you go through your closet and it stays because you do wear it, you just don’t love it. Donate it to someone else! They may love it. You do not. Move on. Do the same with your resolutions. Do not recycle because you think this is the year you will really make it happen. If you hair is not on fire, your resolution will not be either.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different outcome. So using the questions above as a guide see if you can create a resolution to move you toward your goal that you find exciting and what works for you is going to be different from what works for others, so do this for you!
If you like recreational activities out in nature, instead of “exercise 3 times per week”, plan to leash walk the dogs for a mile or two a couple mornings a week or if you don’t have a dog meet a neighbor it is a great way to catch up and get some exercise. It is also great to have a buddy, it is a lot harder to hit the snooze when your friend is going to be waiting at the corner. You could also add in cooling off at the pool or local swimming area another day with some laps during adult swim time and go for a longer hike on a beautiful trail on the weekend. Presto you have 3 or more days of exercise and you may not have even noticed it was work.
If you are a competitive sort, register for a 5k and start competing with yourself to log the miles. RunKeeper is a great app for this, you get lots of encouragement along the way for longest distance, most mileage in a week, fastest time for a distance. For us trackers it is fun to see the progress and get little email surprises when you hit a new milestone.
The most important thing to remember is to make it work for you and who you are and what you love and want to be.
And if you stuck with me this long you get a little extra reward!
On July 1st “How the World Sees You: Discover Your Highest Value through the Science of Fascination”, by Sally Hogshead hit the shelves and the kindles. You can find it here on Amazon. As part of her book launch Sally would like 100,000 people to take her Fascination Advantage Survey. I took it about a year and a half ago and have been fascinated by her work ever since. You answer 28 questions, it takes 5 to 10 minutes, and you get back an amazing brand profile that tells you how the world sees you. It provides your archetype, which is the combination of your top two area advantages and how to leverage them in communication with others, how they can work against you, and your dormant advantage explains why certain approaches and situations are exhausting for you. It may even shed some light on why some of those resolutions, while attractive on the surface, may be working against you and how others were just effortless.
The best part is that as her research continues to grow you continue to benefit with updated reports and info about your archetype. One of my clients emailed me after taking the survey last week and said, “That is absolutely amazing – the report really defined me!” So go check it out here and use code: BL-jcochran90 to snag your free evaluation. It is soooo worth the 10 minutes and it is only available until July 25th!
If you are inspired to revisit a health and fitness oriented resolution, but you are not sure where to start, drop me an email or schedule a 30 minute discovery call with me to get you started. My Archetype is the Trendsetter. I use Innovation and Prestige as my top two advantages, so I may think of an approach that you have not thought of yet!
Hope to see you in the studio soon!