Cancer Truth Note: #357
Curiosity beats Judgement every day.
Often the opinions of others come from a place of judging what we should be doing.
Remember, “should” is someone else’s priority!
When we shift from judgment to curiosity there is a different energy in the inquiry. If someone says, “You shouldn’t do chemo, you should do a raw diet.” that is a judgment, their opinion.
How does the tone change when it is a curious question, “Why are you choosing chemo over a raw diet?” In this case there is an opportunity to discuss. I was asked this question by the adult child of a breast cancer survivor. She was curious because she thought she might need to make these same choices at a future time and she wanted to really understand the options and the pros and cons of those options.
I am available for these types of conversations all day long. It can be thought provoking and help us see where we might still have questions or alternatives we didn’t think of.
Holidays can be a time of navigating judgment, often from a place of not having all the information. As you go through your day, notice what seems curious and what seems like judgment. How can a judgment be shifted into curiosity?
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