Accept help gratefully when it is offered, even if you are not sure you need it. ASK for help when you need it! 

It is so common to think someone needs help more than me. Here is the truth.The availability of help is not finite.

I remember when I was having my first surgery, several people referred me to the local cleaning companies who cleaned with Cleaning for a Reason, a breast cancer charity. When I got the calls from the company I said, “We are good. I am sure there are others more in need. This is pretty straight forward surgery. I won’t be down long.” It was true.

It was also true that I was as welcome to receive those services as anyone else navigating breast cancer treatment.

Fast forward six months, in the middle of chemo a bunch of my family came into town for Thanksgiving. I needed a blood transfusion because my red count was so low. I couldn’t walk from the family room to the kitchen without needing to rest before making the walk back. I called and had the cleaning service come in.

I probably should have asked sooner!

If you are navigating a cancer journey see what help is available and apply to receive it. Accept the help that is offered by friends and family. If you don’t know what you need, it is also ok to say, “You know I am not sure right now what I need, can I call you if something comes up?” People want to help, they also need us to tell them what is helpful. Do not be afraid to speak up!

Try flexing your ask for help muscle, What could you use help with today?

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